I've been reading "What He Must Be... If He Wants to Marry My Daughter" by Voddie Baucham, and really enjoying this title. So much of this instruction is directly relevant to my own situation of not only preparing and direction my own children spiritually for their future spouses, but also in terms of cultivating an understanding of what to be looking for in future sutors. I will likely have more to post about this book later.
We attended Voddie's church in Houston a couple years ago, and other than a few minor doctrinal issues I think he's a fantastic teacher, and what he covers in this book will definitely be considered controversial by many, both in and out of the church. Not many people like to hear someone defend and encourage the principle that a potential son-in-law, other than just being an upright individual with a genuine Christian faith, must also be a man who loves and craves having children. In a day and age where some evangelicals like to dismiss the creation mandate, I love reading from the occasional pastor who defends (and encourages) believers to have large families.
Especially interesting to me was Voddie's elaboration on Psalm 127:5 (the "quiver" passage) from the ESV. As he states in the book (pg. 123-124) there are many translations of the Bible that render this passage, speaking of the blessing of children, as "blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them". But the ESV picks up a missed nuance, "Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!" Voddie points out the crucial distinction: "this rendering paints the picture of a man who desires children, who seeks children. What a scathing rebuke to those in our culture who do not value children."